This will be year 2 of my Valentine's Day observations. A lot of single people that I know are bitter as shit about this holiday and it is quite alarming - other than the fact that they are adults. Yes - it does symbolize a completely bullshit holiday that due to commercialization, has morphed into this materialistic beast that sheds away most of the aspects of genuine relationships and puts GIFTS on a pedestal. BUT....I love "love."
Seriously - Valentine's Day is actually a pretty awesome holiday. We should love regardless but this is a day especially to just annoyingly love up on some folks - or an individual - without feeling too needy and by the way.... I do love the date posts - not the young date posts, the OLD people date posts.
Think about it. These people have been doing this shit for years. I just read about an old man asking his facebook for ideas on celebrating the 40th Valentine's Day with his wife... HOW unbelievable? He did ask facebook which was a poor move on Gerald's part but he is trying to adapt to the times so I give him points.
My view of relationships in general is still a bit fucked, I will admit that. There is still this bit of machismo, I need to just be rich to truly have a happy significant other.... its trash. I know. I am cognizant of this fact and have been working......but I know what love is. (cue some Forest Gump).
It is not about monogamy or social status. Its not about financial or public access. Going back to that facebook post, for 40 years one man and woman decided to spend one day together celebrating the relationship they have between each other...(repeat) HOW unbelievable? Love is undoubtedly this unspoken understanding that two individuals can stand each other. The love language of everyone is relative but this is love in the most crude and raw way. I digress.....
If you're single, don't be bitter. Send a text to another single friend just for drinks. Send gag gifts to offices. None of these have to have a single meaning other than --- thought about you today. I could stand you today. The gift is like if a text message was real...like if you could physically send something to someone at some point. Its weird. Maybe just type up a huge text in big font, put it in a box and mail it to a friend's work. You're welcome.
DO NOT BE BITTER THOUGH - the holiday should serve as a reminder though to single folks...NOT that you're single. At the very least it should serve as a reminder that you will eventually be able to pull off something cooler than what your friend did this year. Mainly it should serve as a reminder that people still love love. That old people still find time to spend with one another. That sparks can still fly. That a presence can be a present.
As for my special day...I will actually be spending it with my first true commitment, my tattoo artist turned friend, as we work on some more things. Seriously - first true commitment here in LA.
The Journey Continues...